Friends vs. Relationships

Hey Guys!

So first of all let me say to those that are done, congrats! You have made it through another semester in college, whether it was passing all your classes and looking forward to the next ones, or finishing up your last classes as an undergraduate student! All the hard work pays off in the end! So something that has been on my mind today are relationships. The big question being: what’s the right balance to finding time for your friends, family and loved ones? Well there is no simple answer to this question, but what I can tell you is that there should be some sort of balance, because blowing your friends off just because your boyfriend of husband is around is not the smoothest move, because eventually your friends will get fed up with it and when things go for the worse, they might not be there. If a guy is being possessive over you and does not want you to hang out with your friends because they’re a “bad influence” then you need to start seeing the clearer picture. Either they really are a bad influence or this is just the beginning of a stereotypical possessive relationship. When the person being controlled in the relationship drops everyone and everything, they are not the only people getting hurt. Friendships are like relationships and if you have true friends there is nothing wrong with hanging out with them, even when your boyfriend is around. And by hanging out I mean going to the mall together, or the gym, or even sometimes having a girl’s night downtown. Going downtown isn’t an excuse for flirting and meeting other guys. Girls need that time out with their friends just like guys love watching football with their friends every Sunday. It’s a form of socializing and getting some space so you don’t always feel surrounded by your significant other. So guys or girls please don’t be insecure that just because you’re boyfriend or girlfriend isn’t spending 24/7 with you they are going to cheat on you. It’s healthy to hang out with your friends and family, and if you don’t feel that way then you are not in a healthy relationship. You don’t want to hurt your friends feelings by showing them that the only time you are available is when their partner is unavailable, because then your friends will just feel “used.” So I hope that if you have read this and you feel that in some sort of way this applies to you then by all means I hope that you can change, not for your friends but for yourself, because not only will you have a wonderful relationship with your partner but also you will not loose those around you that you have made memories and have been there for you since day one! Have a wonderful day and I will blog to you guys soon!

XOXO Fon